Revealing mistake: When Superman returns the flag, the wide shots show he has really long arms and a brown blob where the head should be, revealing the actor has been replaced with a dummy.
Revealing mistake: When Superman returns the flag to the White House, not only has the shot been reused, but the trees have been badly cut around to change the previous grey sky for a bright, blue and sunny one.
Revealing mistake: When Non burns the side of the cargo bed of the truck, a rectangular spot around the planks is coloured in a lighter shade, giving away where the special FX were placed.
Revealing mistake: When Superman flies towards the White House, in the close-up his cape and flag flutter at a normal speed, but in the wide shot they move really fast, quite comically actually, revealing that the scene has been speeded-up.
Revealing mistake: When Lois jumps in the river, she is replaced by a very obvious mannequin that floats stiff. Furthermore, the current tilts the dummy and its two arms bent like a sex doll's are perfectly visible.
Revealing mistake: When Superman arrives at the tropical place, the sea doesn't move, revealing it's a very obvious still picture where a flying Superman has been inserted.
Revealing mistake: After the army jeep drives through a House in East Houston, notice the driver's stiffness despite the crash and fall, revealing it's a dummy.
Revealing mistake: When the 3 villains start blowing at the people in Metropolis, the papers come blowing from the left and right sides of the set, revealing where the huge fans where placed to achieve the effect.
Revealing mistake: When Ursa throws the sewer lid at Superman a sticky object protrudes from his back, revealing the mechanism that pulled him backwards.
Revealing mistake: Right when the Metropolis fight is about to start, Superman flies to the Daily Planet and passes by a building. Check the pattern on the windows and you'll notice that the same small door on the left appears almost everywhere, revealing that a miniature was used.
Revealing mistake: During the Metropolis battle, after Non and Super go down through the pavement, Non is launched upwards thorough the concrete. Check the people around, specially the cop on the right. They are blatant toys (note the cop's weird arms), revealing it is all a miniature set.
Revealing mistake: When the villains blow away the stuff in Metropolis, the fire hydrant falls down and reveals it wasn't fixed to the ground, a blatant prop.
Revealing mistake: When Non punches Superman and he crashes against a metal wall, there's a brief shot where Chris Reeve's stunt double is very noticeable.
Revealing mistake: At the Fortress, when the villains and Superman play the appearing/disappearing trick, there's a shot with 4 Supermen onscreen, a special effect which was achieved with stand-ins. The one in front of Zod, and especially the one next to Lois look nothing like Christopher Reeve.
Revealing mistake: When Luthor is about to climb up the balloon his bald cap wrinkles by his nape.
Revealing mistake: In the prison laundry, Luthor's bald cap is very noticeable, especially by his sideburns.
Revealing mistake: When the phantom zone explodes it is a cheap pencil drawing animation.
Revealing mistake: When Luthor and Teschmaker are in the balloon, in the wide angle they both become coloured green due to the blue screen effect.
Revealing mistake: When Superman launches the Eiffel elevator in space and he flies back to earth, a white rectangle surrounds him where his image was superimposed to achieve the flying effects. (The Ultimate Collector´s Edition Box Set).
Revealing mistake: When Superman grabs the antenna above the pram, part of the antenna disappears because of the blue screen effects.
Answer: Superman was be able to kiss Lois in such a way that the heightened emotion wiped out her memory of his identity. To answer your second question, even though Lois promised not to tell anyone, Superman decided he does not want even her to know his secret identity.
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